How to argue

We are debating over whether to do it this way or that one. My way or his.

You’ve been there. Everyone has.

You see it your way, and your way makes the most sense for the world as you see it.

His way makes the most sense for his world, the world as he sees it.

If you budge, are you compromising something that’s ok to compromise, or are you compromising something that’s not ok to compromise?

He’s asking himself the same question.

Maybe there is another way to look at all this.

What are you trying to accomplish with your way? What is he trying to accomplish with his?

Can you do things his way and still achieve your underlying goals through other means? Can he consider things in a likewise fashion?

What about an altogether third way neither of you have considered?

If I know nothing else, I know the world has more options than arguments.

Related, perhaps: How to love


4 thoughts on “How to argue

  1. yep, been there .. this post reminds me of a Dylan song:

    “It’s a restless hungry feeling
    That don’t mean no one no good
    When ev’rything I’m a-sayin’
    You can say it just as good.
    You’re right from your side
    I’m right from mine
    We’re both just one too many mornings
    An’ a thousand miles behind”

  2. You are wise beyond your years – and I know that whatever decisions are made, you will make them work because of the ove you have.

  3. usually when you argue with someone who won’t give in, just fire a couple of rounds near their feet and they’ll run like hell — that solves that problem, babyE … next one ?

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