How To Love

Give what you would like to be given – be it devotion, space, or the understanding that sometimes one equals the other.

Don’t be timid. Show joy, fear, frustration, pleasure.

Know a real conversation that may hurt someone is better than a fake one pretending to be upbeat.

When the person you love is scared, be the braver one. When you are scared, don’t also be afraid to say you are.

Talk about love. Talk about it with all kinds of people – your parents, your children, your friends… Talk about love with all the people you love.

Explain yourself. Understand assumptions are made when you don’t.

Ask questions when you find yourself making assumptions.

Understand: Your baggage is not as heavy as you think it is. Neither is anyone else’s.

If you don’t understand the person you love, consider whether you might be talking too much. If you feel you aren’t being heard, ask yourself if you are speaking up.

Don’t worry if the timing is right. Worry – no, wonder – if the person is right.

The right person at the wrong time is a situation that will fix itself. There will never be a right time for the wrong person.

You might not know what is coming next. That is okay. You know what? That is really exciting.

Being in love is not the same thing as being loved. Both are wonderful.


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